Togetherness

You can sit beside someone you love and feel a mile away. A phone keeps lighting up. One person tries to sound fine. The other starts giving advice. Nobody is cruel. Nobody’s there.

You want connection, so you reach for a better line, think of a smarter answer, gesture wildly ~ a sign that everything is all right. Effort? or a performance. Then both people are listening for the version of the other person that feels easiest to manage, and scariest to confront.

Nothing To Prove

Listen closely, and you just might find the other person extremely interesting. Say you don’t know what to say when you don’t. Silence can leave more room for closeness than a polished reply.

Frequency attunement. It’s shared peace and attention. Two people are meant for each other, and they will agree about what comes next. Two people can stop long enough to notice the vibrations. Let the silence sit and just exist. Exist, together. Seperated and desperately attached, or firmly rooted and growing together towards the sun.

You can be open and keep a boundary. You can say no. You can be yourself and be apart of it. You can feel the whole or just a part. Shared attention has room for two real people, not one person the other feels on demand. Paradoxically, you can only recieve that which is returned after having already been offered by and given to you ad infinitum.

A calm room won’t settle you down. A hard talk is easier than a long walk. Long walks are best kept for good talks, and walks are good. You can’t make another person relax, trust you, or meet you where you are. Focus only on the things that you can control, and accept them as they are.